Success Takes Tough Choices

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Like most of us, I want my life to be a success.  None of us wake up stoked to head into a job we’re not that excited about, nor a relationship that seems to be draining and unequal.  It’s normal for us, as humans, to want more.  There are a ton of Buzzfeed articles and crap online to help us feel good, ie “Top 10 Ways You’re Succeeding Now!”.   It’s rare, however, to find real guidance and security.  That’s because success isn’t just simple; it takes planning, change, and repetition.  In short, it’s difficult, and that leads many of us to skirt along the edges where we feel good enough without the hard work.

Some of us though, want more.  And that means being real about where we are and what it takes to reach the next plateau.  You see, life isn’t just a smooth transition and it doesn’t owe us a thing.  Life doesn’t even need to be fair.  It can throw a giant middle finger in your face and laugh as it flies past you at speeds that seem insurmountable.   What then does one do in order to take control and get that dream job, or find that spectacular life partner, or be financially sound at an age young enough to enjoy it?   It takes tough choices.

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As my own life creeps toward success, the repeating theme is having to face facts and overcome difficulties.  Both of these are uncomfortable.  That then is why most of us don’t reach our pie-in-the-sky goals.  Sure we could tell our boss to shove it and wake up tomorrow to follow our dreams, but that takes sacrifice, and at least now we have a reliable job and comfortable life.  So is the thought.  While each of our lives are unique, there are a few simple truths I’ve learned over the years that contribute to success if you’re so willing to make the arduous venture:

  1. Learn to love what’s uncomfortable.  Many of life’s greatest assets sit just beyond a difficult time.  If the best in life were simple to obtain than all of us would have it.  Those who’ve made it to the top didn’t just wake up there (well, not most of them).  They struggled.  This is why I’ve learned to pay attention when a lack of comfort presents itself.  Often times that nagging discomfort is a cheat-sheet into how to improve ourselves.  Learning to not only acknowledge but appreciate that lack of security is what drives us to change and drive forward.  This means you can train yourself to love that discomfort.  It’s like hitting the gym; the first day is DEATH, the second day is unpleasant, and yet somehow after consistent action we learn to love it.  It drives us and we feel out of place without the pain and effort.  Same goes for your personal life.
  2. Build a long-term destination and keep going in that direction.  Life is going to kick your ass, sometimes so hard it knocks your equilibrium out of whack.  It may put you in the gutter for a while, or drive you so far off course you’re not in the same spot as before.  C’est la vie.  But having a long-term goal is like a compass where you can brush yourself off and get back in the right direction.   Financial advisors give this advice constantly; don’t allow the winds of the time to direct you.  Set your end goal and stick with it.  The market could crash, a stock could fail, but stay consistent and over time your investments grow.
  3. Be ready to not be ready.  My last relationship was going great… until it wasn’t.  There wasn’t some huge change.  She wasn’t abusive in any way.  One day my gut just starting screaming at me to change and I wasn’t ready for that.  If you’ve ever been fired from a job you enjoyed and were good at you’ve also experienced this.  Sometimes a curveball gets thrown and if you’re not ready to not be ready it will throw you for a loop.  This isn’t just a fluke, it’s relatively normal.   Yes, it’s unruly, and yes, it’s hard to prepare for, but simply understanding that sometimes you’ll just not be ready for things to change will help you harken back to the first two points in this article.

In the end, the only thing that sits between us and success is… well, us.  Excuses are weak and action is strong, so stop worrying about where you are now or the temporary setback you may face when having to make a tough decision.  Choose the life you want, get prepared, and go get it.

-Tizz

Success is Nothing Without Failure

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People fail.  Failure sucks.  I mean it really sucks, especially when you’re one of those striving to be the best.  What’s funny (in a non-amusing way) is we often seem to fail again, and again, and again. We spend a good chunk of our lives dreaming about what could be.  Where can we go?  Who can we be?  What can we accomplish?  It’s sad when circumstances come crashing down from above.  But what if that crash wasn’t really a negative?  What if we’re looking at it the wrong way and failure is needed for success?  That change of mind may actually help in our next venture.

Success is coveted by all of us so why do so few reach it?  Why don’t they go through the same crap we do?  News flash!  They do.  Most of your idols didn’t just make it there.  They overcame great failures on a myriad of occasions.  What separates them from the rest is their tenacity to keep pushing forward. They shun doubt and go for it again. Our greatest heroes are not typically born on top, they’ve hit bottom and still managed to find crawl, leap, press towards their hilltop.  While keeping that in mind, let’s glance at some of the best who found themselves in the same position we’re in today:

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KFC’s Colonel Sanders:  Lesser known by his full name Harland David Sanders, the Colonel actually faced many setbacks.  He was fired from a dozen jobs.  He was once a lawyer who assaulted his own client in court (probably not the best way to earn repeat business). His first foray into restaurant ownership ended up failing and left the man broke.  It wasn’t until 65 years old, with hardly a cent to his name, where he found an investor and began KFC, becoming the legend he is today.  If not for the lessons of past failure he wouldn’t have had the handbook to success.

Lincoln01Abraham Lincoln: Mr. Lincoln is known as one of the greatest men this country has seen.  It’s easy to look at his list of accommodations and feel everything he touched was gold. What most don’t know is his long list of defeat. In 1832 his run for legislature took a beating and Abe lost his job.  The following year in 1833 his new business venture collapsed. In 1835 his lover died which led to a nervous breakdown. 1838 found him defeated as Speaker and 1843 he was rejected entry from Congress. The next 10 years brought another 5 lost nominations, including a Vice Presidential defeat in 1856 and US Senate misstep in 1858.  Heck, if this man didn’t keep pushing forward he wouldn’t have become the human we know and love.  Finally in1860, when he was finally elected President, an even more prestigious position than what he’d sought came to light and an avenue to shine came forth.

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Henry Ford:  Ford Motor Company is one of the greatest American success stories.  The company didn’t take a dollar from the Federal Government during the Recession of 2008, a remarkable feat and show of stability.  The funny thing is Henry’s success came after a number of failed iterations. His first venture with the Quadricycle saw all of his investment dry up without producing a vehicle. Detroit Auto Company raised another round of investors and produced a car but went bankrupt after 2 years in 1901 with over $86,000 lost (that’s over $2.1 million in today’s money). It wasn’t until a 3rd round his vision started to grow and Henry’s dreams began to turn into reality.

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Thomas Edison:  Simply, his teachers stated he was “Too stupid to learn anything.”  He fought against teachers and schools who didn’t want to accept him.  That seems like a stretch for the man who invented the phonograph, the motion picture camera, and the electric light bulb.

The point here is many of the greatest, most successful individuals took a hard beating in life.  Many of them were criticized for what they loved and did best.  What separates them from the everyday-man is their tenacity to get up and get at it again.  Without that last push they would not have become the legends they are today.  Keep pushing, keep being beaten down, keep hearing “No,” because you never know if the next thing is your greatest thing.

-Tizz

Success Can Not Be Rushed

Car02Timing is one of the biggest factors I’ve learned to let the universe control.  There are a lot of things that could, or would be beneficial ‘if only’…   Sometimes the world works at it’s own pace, and we learn, if sometimes slowly, to accept that fact for reasons unknown.

Success is similar.  Often times we wonder if, or when we’ll find it.  Perhaps it just needs it’s own time.  What if we struggle to appreciate and recognize the peaks and valleys?  What if our continued devotion help us inspire others to follow suit?

As with most things in life we will likely struggle to understand the moment.  Lacking perspective makes us miss accomplishments we provide each day.  Be slow and recognizer the moment.  I bet if viewed from outside eyes we’d all be more successful than we think.

-Tizz